When The Going Gets Tough You Need More Self Care Not Less

Welcome to part 4 of - What You Most Need In 2015 Is Energy Not Time mini series. In this lesson get clear about your self care practices that boost your energy levels.

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Jan 13, 2015

Recently I felt really stuck. I had a pile of things to do, a to do list as long as your arm and a diary that was filling up at an alarming rate. No matter what I did I just could not muster the energy to get going. I was depleted and more than anything what I needed to reeve up my energy levels was a tender dose of self-care.

The psychotherapist Carl Rogers was quoted as saying, “I have always been better at caring for and looking after others than I have been at caring for myself. But in these later years I have made progress.“ Knowing that Carl Rogers also battled with keeping up with his self care made me feel a whole lot better about myself and how I was feeling. It goes to show even those we expect to be on the ball struggle with the day-to-day practice of self-care.

When it comes to energy management rather than treating your self-care as if it were an ‘add on’ try repositioning it in your life as an essential requirement. During stressful times what we need is ‘not less’ self care ‘but more’ self-care. Self-care is the fuel that powers up and motors your energy levels. It's a combination of the things you do to relax and take downtime, knowing the things that inspire you and which activities and connections with people recharge your battery.

As we hit the second week of January how about re-visiting the self-care activities that nourish your well-being?

·Write a list of the self-care activities you enjoy doing in your journal or notebook.

·Make another list of those little self-care acts that are missing from your life.

  • When my daughter was growing up, every Friday I’d treat myself to a bunch of flowers from the flower stall outside Brixton tube station in South London. This simple weekly treat turned into a ritual and once it became a ritual it was something I did without even thinking. Anne Morrow Lindbergh captured the essence of my Friday flower ritual when she wrote, "Arranging a bowl of flowers in the morning can give a sense of quiet in a crowded day like writing a poem or saying a prayer."

Here are some tips to help you stay on track with your self-care as a way of boosting your energy levels:

Quick & Easy To Do

  • You'll need a self-care practice that's quick and easy to do most days, for example a 10-minute walk at lunchtime or practice a one-minute, being in the moment mindfulness practice throughout the day. It all adds up.

Cultivate a Root Self Care Practice

  • Decide on what your everyday root self care practice is? My everyday self-care practice is journaling. When I write in my journal I feel more grounded in my day no matters what happens. When I don't write in my journal (and I hadn’t written on that particular day mentioned earlier) I feel out of sorts and unsettled.

What’s The Pay Off For Your Self Care Activity?

  • Write down what and how each self-care practice supports your health and well-being. My flower treats calms me down and is visually and creatively uplifting. Taking a bath reduces stress and stimulates my creative thinking. Taking time out of my busy schedule to go to visit my favourite tree, Sanctuary is spiritually affirming and nourishing.
  • Having your self-care practices captured on a list makes it that much easier to know what practice to go with when you know it’s time to fill up the well.

Schedule Your Self Care As An Appointment

  • Book your self-care into your diary in the same way you would schedule in meetings and appointments. Once they’re in the diary they’re more likely to get done.

One final lesson on its way in the What You Most Need in 2015 Is Energy Not Time mini series.

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Jackee Holder

Professional & Personal Coach, Author, Speaker & Journal Coach, Life Is A Work In Progress!

Jackee is passionate about writing and journaling and has filled the pages of over one hundred journals. Jackee holds a Masters degree in creative writing and personal development from Sussex University and is the author of four books, 49 Ways To Write Yourself Well, Be Your Own Best Life Coach, The Journal Journey Guidebook and Soul Purpose along with numerous workbooks, e-books, free journaling products and articles for a range of journals and magazines. Over the last ten years Jackee has coached and supported professional women, writers, creative artists, entrepreneurs and executives both on and off the page through workshops, retreats, one on one coaching, coach training and her online journal writing course, Paper Therapy http://www.jackeeholder.com/events/paper-therapy-online-journal-writing-course-2/ I journal regularly, really enjoy podcasts interviews around journaling and expressive writing, along with writing blogs and articles on writing/journaling, reflective writing, mindfulness, time to think, mental health, personal growth and self-development. I am an early morning walker and love the early mornings when most of the rest of the world is asleep. I have a real interest in trees and tree mythology and love the way trees beautify our environment. You can find Jackee here: http://www.jackeeholder.com Twitter: @jackeeholder


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Denise about 4 years ago

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Denise about 4 years ago

My self care and hobby is catching up with a friend.just 10 min each makes all the difference. It makes me (and them) feel good.