Week 29- Just Grateful X

Every morning I will write down what I am excited about in the forthcoming day and before I go to sleep I will write down everything I am grateful for.

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Every morning I will write down what I am excited about in the forthcoming day and before I go to sleep I will write down everything I am grateful for.

For me this was a pretty easy experiment as I have come across the power of gratitude before. One year I wrote down one thing every day that I was grateful for on a post it and put them in a jar. I still have the jar and every time I see the rainbow of colours in the jar I am reminded of how lucky I am and it’s good to be reminded on ‘ pigeon poo’ days. When I was having counselling for depression, we discussed the way we think about things is a symptom but also can exacerbate the condition and therefore one theory is to change the way we think about things. Practising gratitude is one way of doing this and I think if you do it for long enough it can really help the way you see your life, yourself and others.

I did find it harder to think of things I was excited about in the morning. I must admit it’s a sad fact of life but as I have got older I very rarely get beyond mildly interested ….although this year, I have got excited about Wake up, about moving house and about my change in career….so I found the mornings much harder than the evening. My gratitude list can go on and on, mostly it is about my friends and family. I’m grateful my Mam is so young for 89, I’m grateful my sister is responding well to treatment, I’m grateful to be in a loving two way uncomplicated relationship, I’m grateful that my son is so lovely, I’m grateful for Ted and the bottomless unconditional love he gives me and the welcome I have when I walk in from work.

I am massively grateful for my friends, I have such amazing, strong, intelligent, kind, funny and complex friends. This week I had a surprise visit in work from Debs who has pink cropped hair, designer specs and doctor martens and a crutch… she suffers from a painful debilitating illness but is the most positive person I know. I celebrated my lovely friend Lynne’s sons 18TH with a damp bbq in the garden and then when went for an Indian later in the week as we couldn’t have fitted in everything we needed to say into one evening. The best bit of this week is my friend Cath is over from Ireland for the week. I am so proud of her. I have known her since her Uni days and she’s followed her career and heart to set up home in Ireland. She has two beautiful daughters and a fabulous job managing a lecturing facility in Psychology and despite having a busy schedule catching up with all her family and friends we’ve managed to squeeze in a night out, a quick catch up with her daughters and a pub lunch near work- the best thing is – what do we talk about…? Oh yes, work, mortgages, career moves, car problems, family issues but the best bit is we still talk about girl things, best lipstick, hair tips…how to get a flat tummy and it’s like we were 20 again. I cherish the moments with my friends and feel very lucky to have them that was the resounding conclusion of this week’s experiment for me :)

Fiona Dolben

Acupuncturist, holistic therapist, content creator., Hemp Holisitics

I'm a single parent of ONE lovely lanky teenager.. I live in deepest rural Wales . My 'proper' job is in marketing and events but I am also a trained reflexologist, masseur and reiki giver (go figure!) I also look after my Mum who is in her late 80's, my dog Ted, my cat Black and my hens and goldfish...my dream is to have a small holding and offer people holidays in my teepee and maybe the odd therapy ....so as you can see I am a mass of contradictions.... I like to walk, do yoga, eat salad and visit new places but I also like to drive fast, Feast ice lollies, vodka on Friday's with friends(, which leads to dancing in my kitchen) my coffee , and staying up late... I can be outgoing but also extremely shy so like the rest of you I am still trying to figure it out one day at a time...


Go to the profile of Vanessa
over 5 years ago
Lovely, positive post, Fi. What really resonated for me was what you said about rarely getting beyond mildly interested as we get older. I've found the same is true for me and I have to really work at being excited. I've tried gratitude as well, like you, but I found it's the excitement (even for little things like plans with a friend) that really lights my fire. Gratitude = greens, excitement = chocolate :-)
Go to the profile of Mark Cuddy
over 5 years ago
Ha, ha Vanessa surely you mean Cadbury's Starbar and Turkish delight, ha, ha. Fi, just like you this week's experiment made me appreciate the great people I have in my life from friends to family to my wife and to Bobby. Although I won't be writing down what I'm excited about every morning and giving gratitude for those things at the end of the day the experiment brought into light the great things I'm clearly grateful for and the decent choices I made along the way to the place I am now and to the future. I suppose in that way the challenge worked for me in a round about way. Life is for living.
Go to the profile of Chris Baréz-Brown
over 5 years ago
Loving your description 'pigeon poo' days'! Think we all know those ones. Excitement is harder to generate for sure as we get older, reckon it's why at parties people have to play massive tunes to get us up and dancing! When you are younger you dance to anything. Great gratitude and I agree it is a powerful one. Post Its I am a big fan of, like the idea of the rainbow jar. Super blog as always, C x
Go to the profile of Jacqui
over 5 years ago
Sounds like there is lots to be excited about here! I struggled with excitement bit too but I think some days its easier to find that excitement than others!