You want a relationship, but you won’t get it because in reality you are simply not ready. You may be single enjoying your life as it is. You may be thinking it’s about time to settle down. You may feel pressured to by all those couples around you. You might feel exasperated, you really want a relationship but you just can’t seem to find the right person, you meet a constant stream of dead-ends. Where are all the decent people? Regardless of your situation, you may in fact not be ready for the real deal.
Separating from your partner, particularly when your lives have become entwined, can be one of the most painful and liberating experiences you will ever encounter. There are no quick fixes or easy solutions but there is always light at the end of the tunnel. As a coach, divorcee and keen observer of people and relationships, this is what I have learned.
My husband David and I have been married for ten years. I was 35 when we got married and even though I had worked in relationships education for several years at the time – it still came as a bit of a shock. Theory is one thing – practice is quite another!
So I was walking through Liverpool Street station in London yesterday, and was delighted to see so many images of hearts and messages of love. As a dating coach I was filled with warmth. I am a sucker for positive messages and lovely reminders. And then I remembered - oh, yeah, it’s Valentine’s next month...
It is easy to be glib about money and say that it does not matter, but of course it does. It frees us from the tyranny of others and allows us to enjoy rich and diverse experiences. However to follow the theme of Decembers issue of Psychologies magazine, money is not in and of itself enough to make us happy.