I have three kids aged 15, 13 and 11. From the outside, I appear to have it all in hand. My kids are polite, friendly and fun to be with. I have managed to get to this point without losing them (apart from that one time on Blackpool Pier), killing them in a stupidity accident or them hating me. I also write about life as a parent, apparently giving the public the illusion that I know what the fuck I am doing...
This Dementia Awareness Week Nikki Trueman shares her struggle to reach a diagnosis for her father and advice on how you can support your family
It is said that “the past is history, tomorrow a mystery, today a gift, and that is why we call it the present.” Today is all we ever really have. Carrying negative energy from your past into your present is a direct cause of energy drain, stress and illness. Harbouring anger, pain, disappointment and rage is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. You will end up ill, not them. Holding onto upset, pain or anger is a sure way to shorten your life. Since it is only energy, that we are attaching a particular vibration to, we can choose to shift the vibration and forgive and let go of the negative energy at will. If and when we choose, not before.
I love Easter for lots of reasons, few of them based on religion. As the seasons turn we start to see more light, longer days and the green shoots of renewal and hope. Given recent world events, this year in particular will also be a time of reflection, made all the more poignant for me by a recent trip to the refugee camp in Calais. I would like to share what I saw and learned from the experience.
Ever found yourself having the same kind of experiences you had with your ex, but with a new partner? It’s almost like dating the same person but with a different face. It often starts off so well, but it ends in the same way. Of course the common denominator is you, but when you met, you thought they were amazing and different and you might even have thought that maybe this time we have a chance. But then it ends up the same. This is an archetypal relationship.
You know all those books, courses, webinars, seminars, workshops and retreats that offer to help you with your confidence, self-doubt, not feeling good enough, poor body image, lack of self-love and self-compassion, self-sabotaging behaviours, negative mindset, and problems with your behaviour in any of your relationships, and as a parent? Well, they're each looking at only the consequences of the same deeper and unresolved underlying cause.