As an ex head-hunter and now coach and mentor, I often come across people who are prone to self limiting assumptions and sadly, these often become self fulfilling. For some people these derive from a pessimistic mind set and for others, they are picked up along the way, through adverse childhood or career experiences for example. Once you have identified the tendency, the harder question is what to do about it?
What are your plans for the holidays? If you're anything like me, you're looking forward to time with family, and the chance to have a well-earned rest. But might you also be figuring that now would be a great time to catch up on your email backlog? Or to clear the admin you've de-prioritized ahead of doing essential year-end stuff (not to mention turning up at office parties?) If so, I have a bit of advice: Don't.
Be inspired by this story of one woman's success.
Mary Beard has since told me she doesn't think she'd be too good in the role but I think she'd be superb. So if not her, who would you nominate?
Many people spend a great deal of time and energy trying to control their lives, careers, partners or loved ones to achieve the outcomes they desire and this is often the path to unhappiness and disappointment. It is only by taking the braver course of letting go, with all of the uncertainty which that entails, that you can thrive in a state of flow and enjoy lifes rich surprises and texture.