We all have a hidden part of our psyche/mind which is called our Inner Child. He or she lives deep inside us and is the echo of who we once were as a child. It carries our beliefs about ourselves and it directs our sub-conscious behaviour – about 90% of the time – at home, on our travels and of course at work.
The relationship we have with our parents and caretakers is the most important emotional and psychological connection we will build - and it determines how we see ourselves and what we believe we deserve in life. You may aim to be a kind and loving parent, but there could be one child you've been neglecting to your detriment...your Inner Child.
Each of us might be directing our own life’s stageplay, with different settings and characters and plots – but are we really all that different underneath it? Despite our uniqueness, many of us graze at the same smorgasbord of doubts and uncertainties and, because we’re often indulging in these in private, it can seem as though we’re quite alone. Here are nine ‘secret’ insecurities that I come across in my coaching conversations with clients often. These aren’t special. They’re not unique. They’re run-of-the-mill to the point of epidemic, and I’ve felt several of them too.
Sometimes wisdom provides great advice of how to behave or think and our soul softens at the possibility of its truth. Despite our best intentions, there can be a wide gap between our current reality and the rose tinted one we strive towards. How do we get to the place where this wisdom becomes our experienced truth? In short, it is practice, patience and commitment to the journey.
I had a great time at this year's Emerging Women Live 2015 in San Francisco. For those in the know this is the hot ticket of the year with headliners Brene Brown, Elizabeth Gilbert, Jane Goodall and Dr Terarai Trent this is the woman's conference ito light your fire. Here's a few of my highlights of what the weekend meant to me.
Who is your Inner child and what mischief might they be creating between you and your partner or spouse?
Do you feel safe? One of our most important human needs is for security. If we don't feel safe, that sense of danger will grab our attention and send us some powerful, instinctive urges to take action.
Albert Einstein once said “The only real valuable thing is intuition.” So why isn’t everyone using it? The truth is most people don’t know how to listen to their intuition.
The most important thing to remember is that not everyone is built of the same stuff when it comes to being able to create the necessary internal psychological structures – or mental 'grit' - to support themselves in times of great challenge, adversity and distress.
Have you ever had that ‘stuck in a rut’ feeling? Every morning it a bit like Groundhog Day. You wake up and know it's just going to be the same old routine.