This weekend sees us in the autumn equinox, traditionally know as Mabon, named after the God of Welsh mythology.
This is the time of year when night and day are equal length and in perfect equilibrium, when day and night, dark and light come into balance. The season invites us to find balance within the masculine and feminine energies of doing and being, of being in the outside world and withdrawing into ourselves to conserve energy and hibernate through the darker months.
- How can you create more balance so that you have time to draw your energies inwards?
From this weekend until the spring equinox, darkness begins to defeat the light. Now is the time to harvest the seeds we have sown through spring and summer, to appreciate our work, not mourn what didn't grow and celebrate what did.
- What is in your harvest? What are your successes? What do you learn from the projects, the relationships, the experiences which didn't grow?
As the nights grow longer and the days cooler the sap of the trees returns back to their roots deep and it is an invitation for us to do the same, to rest after the labour of the year. It is a time to reap what we have sown and to bring projects to completion.
Just as in the garden, now it the time for dead-heading and cutting back, this season is also an invitation to to clear out and let go that which is no longer wanted or needed. This is the time to look back not just on the past year, but also your life to see what wisdom and insight is to be harvested there.
- What needs cutting back?
- What wisdom have you gained in the last year? What do you know now that you didn't know last autumn?
In our reflections, and our movement from the outside world of doing, the the interior working of being, there is time to plant seeds of new ideas and hopes which will lie dormant but nourished in the dark, until the return of spring.
- Journal, dream, draw what you would love for yourself in the spring. Now is not the time to put anything into action, let your dreams percolate over the winter and see what blooms in the spring.
Cut back on your commitments, go to bed earlier, reduce stress, increase rest, allow yourself to be tired and still for this is what the season invites us to do and to keep moving at our summer speed will lead us into a spring without having the rest and recuperation we need in order to bloom.
- What you are harvesting
- What needs cutting back /digging out /replanting / bringing in from the cold?
- How can you look after yourself more?
As a woman, and as a coach, as I sit in the autumn of life, riding the waves of the menopause, I am learning, increasingly, that the seasons affect me and my clients. In my younger years I would have fought the darkness of autumn and winter and exhausted myself, just as I see my clients do. Now I know that the gentle thing, the kind thing, the healthy thing to do is to go with the seasons. We are, after all, part of nature, not just additions to it.
- How can you be gentle and kind to yourself this autumn?
- Meditate on balance and what that means for you.
Nature is entering it's resting phase, shedding leaves, drawing in, hibernating. Now is the time for us all to complete our harvest and rest in readiness for spring.
Wishing you a restful equinox.
I'd just like to share my own project is coming to completion and to ask for your help with it.
I've written a book of fairy stories based on real-life interviews with women who have experienced domestic abuse. This is an issue which effects 1 in 4 women in their life time and leads to the deaths of 2 women a week.
The tales are about how women can heal and empower each other and our selves by telling our stories and supporting each other. Into the Woods launches on 25th November which is the UN day for the End to Violence Against Women and Girls. If you click here, you can pre-order a copy of the book. Please also share the link with your friends as all profits will go to domestic abuse charities.
Domestic abuse is still so taboo, so my intention with this book, as well as raising money, is to start conversations which ultimately lead to more women being safe. Please help by letting people know about it and buying a copy yourself.
Resident coach and Barefoot CEO Kim Morgan has written the foreword for it and says:
"I hope this book is read, shared, talked of, written about and passed from woman to woman. I hope it inspires more women to tell their stories and to grow in courage and strength. I hope it inspires women to support one other, to ask for help, to value themselves, to learn to put themselves first and to turn darkness into light. I hope it saves some lives."
To find out more, please click here.
Thank you for your support.