The way we treat ourselves is the key to our inner happiness – from which everything else flows.
For many years I had a niggling feeling that I needed to be somewhere else – I just couldn't work out where that elusive place was. I felt frustrated and a bit dizzy trying to figure it out. I knew that if only I could find out where I 'belonged' I'd feel happier, more complete, at peace and I'd be enjoying a vibrant circle of loving friends, and I'd never feel emotionally isolated again. I've moved around a bit over the years, but never found the place I'd been searching for – and yet I still yearned for it. That Utopian place that would be the 'cherry on top' of the cake of my life.
With New Years resolutions surfacing, it can be easy to look forward at this time of year and decide what changes we are going to make to ensure that 2016 is better than 2015. However, before you tip into the promise of a new year, take a moment to reflect on the highlights of 2015.
You know all those books, courses, webinars, seminars, workshops and retreats that offer to help you with your confidence, self-doubt, not feeling good enough, poor body image, lack of self-love and self-compassion, self-sabotaging behaviours, negative mindset, and problems with your behaviour in any of your relationships, and as a parent? Well, they're each looking at only the consequences of the same deeper and unresolved underlying cause.
It's Christmas day very soon and the focus is upon having a happy family time. But what if it can never be like that for you? Don't get me wrong – I don't want to burst anyone's happy bauble, but there is another side that we don't hear so much about which is equally valid for many thousands of people.
Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty even though you've not actually done anything wrong? If so, it'll be more to do with your deep-seated subconscious beliefs than actual events.
Has anyone ever confessed to you that they have a ‘dark passenger’? I know I’m getting a little bit ‘Dexter’ here. If you haven’t seen Dexter, it’s an American TV show about a really nice guy with a dark secret that he is a serial killer that only kills bad people, which makes him kinds of likeable, weirdly.
Grace had already lost one job due to her anger management issues. She was surprised I suggested mindfulness might help.
Do you have nights where you flail around, awkwardly trying to find the perfect position to fall asleep? Can't imagine why your brain is on hyper drive and your body is on fidgety high alert.