Let's explore what makes us tick and how we present ourselves to the world.
Over the past year I have met many people who have sadly lost everything and are now trying to start again. The challenges they face and the coping strategies used to overcome them are well worth sharing because we can gain inspiration and ideas for strengthening our own resilience, thereby increasing our own capacity for happiness.
With a personal inquiry as to how much is okay to reveal when writing about the difficult stuff in your journal Psychologies Life Lab expert Jackee Holder reflects on the death of Psychologies columnist Sally Brampton and the challenge of mental health care and funding in modern day UK.
Affirmations seem to work better for some people than for others, but why is that?
Being dyslexic I see patterns easily. One of the ways this shows up is seeing patterns in people. You know, the kind of behaviour patterns that can indicate some psychological problems. It means I don't have to see clients for months on end to get to the root of a problem. But recently I have expanded my pattern observation focus and have started to look at problems in society, asking myself one question. If there was one need all of my clients have in common, what would that need be?
Tim's life had been getting pretty difficult recently. He loved working in London, but the commute to his job in the City was taking him longer and longer.
My eldest son Max celebrated a very special birthday 2 weeks ago. He officially become a “teenager” and at this gateway to adulthood, I decided not to buy a card but to write him a letter instead. So this week, I have created a (less personal) version of this letter for you with 7 minus 1 tips for negotiating life. Why 7 minus 1? Well, there was a 7th tip for Max – but that one was all about how his mum will always love him, no matter what. And I figured this is less useful for you!
I was in Ireland on Mothers’ Day a few weeks ago; the boys were with their Dad back here in England.The trip to Ireland had been booked months before and I realised I’d be away from my boys for “the big day” only when I noticed the ubiquitous Mothers’ Day marketing messages everywhere a few weeks earlier. Unfortunately, neither boys nor Dad are very good at remembering things like Mothers’ Day! And I forgot to remind their dad to remind them (anyone else do that?!) I didn’t even receive a text until I sent a snotty missive at midday to their Dad: “It’s Mothers’ Day you know! Not even a text!!!”
I was fortunate enough recently to spend some time in the company of the Venerable Lama Ngedon Drime. Lama Drime, or Saddhu as he likes to be called, describes himself as a ‘kick-ass monk’.
We often resist challenge and uncertainty in fear of the belief that we won't be able to cope. But what if you recognised the medicine and good stuff concealed in the belly of any challenge that comes your way?