Let's explore what makes us tick and how we present ourselves to the world.
“Getting in your own way” is the biggest obstacle you face when you set your sights on a big, juicy goal. When you set your mind on achieving something, there are always obstacles to overcome - time, money, other people, motivation, lack of know-how... But compared to the obstacle that is lack of self-belief, the others are mere trifles. The biggest obstacle of all is YOU, getting in your own way, paralysing yourself through fear and self-doubt. Ultimately, the buck really does stop here! Want to get out of your own way? Have more self-belief? Get on with achieving your boldest dreams? Good! Let's get you out of your own way, right now, with 5 simple and reasonably painless steps!
What is it that triggers a memory when you first wake-up in the morning? A dream, something from last nights TV or something you read in a book. Or could it be your subconscious mind, reminding you of something from your past so you can rewrite your current thinking?
I call them secret habits because believe you me I was unaware of them.
Incisive questions can be a great way of challenging your writing assumptions
I recently witnessed an extreme case of road rage, where two guys got out of their cars and came close to physical violence. Their inner chimps had become raging baboons and it was not good to see. We all know how road rage can surface and what it feels like to be cheated out of a parking space or right of way. This incident led me to reflect on why some people are better than others at managing their inner chimps and how best to foster calm minds and harmony, in all aspects of our lives.
Often clients reach out to me at a point of ‘I’ve had enough’. The words ‘I have had enough’ imply that someone has reached the end of their tether, that it’s an end of a line that is negative, a sense of ‘I no longer want to go on’. I have always seen this as a breakthrough point in my clients, but never fully understood the facts and and science behind it, until reading Dr David Hamilton's book 'I Heart Me'.
Joseph Heller said, " Every writer I know has trouble writing." I know I often have trouble writing at home when the demands of the day and life take over. That's why I invest in attending regular writing retreats. It's where I make headway on major writing projects each year and where I am my most productive.
I'm gonna get radical. For a few minutes, lets forget fashion mags, new season trends, mannequins in store windows. That's right - forget them. Lets forget the advice of attentive sales people. Lets forget what we 'should' be wearing at our age. I've curated 12 mantras for the authentically dressed wardrobe-rules rebel...
I listened to an interview with the writer Jon Ronson, who described one of the dangers of social media, and particularly Twitter , as akin to 'sleepwalking into a surveillance society'. He was referring to some of the high profile cases where ill advised tweets have led to trial by the mob. Here are some of my reflections on the issues, pitfalls and benefits of social media, for young and old alike.