When ‘bouncing back’ and ‘pushing on through’ stops working

We all have extremely busy lifestyles these days – both work and play can be challenging or just plain hectic. Many of us ‘push on through’, thinking that a bit of extra effort, working longer hours, or plain ‘grit and determination’ will take us through a particularly challenging period and into calmer waters. However, this only works for a limited period of time.

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Jan 04, 2018
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When ‘bouncing back’ and ‘pushing on through’ stops working

  

We all have extremely busy lifestyles these days – both work and play can be challenging or just plain hectic. Many of us ‘push on through’, thinking that a bit of extra effort, working longer hours, or plain ‘grit and determination’ will take us through a particularly challenging period and into calmer waters. This strategy can work, though we may well be pretty exhausted afterwards. But generally, a few days of taking it easy, or having a short break, can be enough to recharge and bounce back.

However, this only works for a limited period of time. And then it stops working, whilst we get more and more worn down by the busyness.  I am a Harley Street and City of London psychotherapist and burnout specialist, so I see plenty of people in this situation. Here’s a recent query from just such a client.

I don’t understand why I’m not bouncing back. Work is hectic but I can usually just push through. Over the last few months I’m constantly exhausted, it’s hard to stay focused at work, even small decisions are feeling too much, and I’ve felt tearful and overwhelmed. This isn’t me!   Fiona, 35

Does this sound familiar? Or do you know someone who’s at this point?

Fiona is describing a state of burnout, which is surprisingly common, even for high achievers. In fact it is often the most dedicated people who end up needing to see me!

Working lives are considerably more pressured, with high workloads, smaller teams and longer hours plus the extra strain from phones, emails and social media. When we are under stress, we still have a reserve tank to draw from, even when exhausted. So we usually bounce back after a few days. But in burnout we’ve used up that reserve, and have nothing left. Indeed, pushing through will only make things worse.

Few people know how to deal with burnout – it’s not what you might expect. Psychotherapy with a burnout specialist can help you get back to your capable self quickly - and make small but essential adjustments to your lifestyle to keep you there.

For more information about burnout and my psychotherapy practice, there’s an article on my website:   http://theharleyconsultancy.co.uk/index.php/struggling-with-burn-out/

 

 

Jacky Francis Walker MA MSc UKCP Registered Psychotherapist, BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor

Psychotherapist, Mindfulness Consultant and Executive Coach.

Harley Street, City of London, Norwich and Skype.

Contact me on consult@theharleyconsultancy.co.uk or 07796 904473

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Jacky Francis Walker

I am an internationally recognised psychotherapist, mindfulness consultant, executive coach, clinical supervisor and trainer. Featured in Psychologies magazine's Coaching Directory, I have been in practice since 1993, working with high achieving professionals and people in creative fields. I offer appointments in London's Harley Street, the City of London and also via video link, so you can get help no matter where in the world you are. My clients are based in such places as the UK, America, Africa and even the Cayman Islands. Clients often self refer. I also receive referrals from other health professionals, such as doctors, cosmetic surgeons, occupational health professionals and dental surgeons. I am also registered with a number of Employee Assistance schemes and health insurance policies which may cover the cost of sessions - details are on my 'background' page on my website. The combination of skills I offer is unique in the UK. As author of The Burnout Bible, I am one of the UK's leading specialists in stress, burn-out and work/life balance. I work from an integrative approach, informed by humanistic and psychodynamic philosophy and mindfulness ways of working, but I draw from other approaches too, such as cognitive behaviour therapy, depending on your needs. I am able to vary my style fro fairly structured to fairly loose, according to your preference. By working collaboratively we can arrive at the most appropriate working style for you, so please do let me know if we need to change anything. I have been working with mindfulness-based approaches since the early 1990s. My MA thesis examined how mindfulness (in the form of the felt sense) could be found within most schools of psychotherapy and distilled key principles for working with mindfulness within a psychotherapeutic approach. In 2014 I took part in an innovative pilot scheme on Mindfulness and Weight Loss. My specialist areas I have a particular interest in working with : stress, burnout and work-life balance (with a special emphasis on the particular needs of high achieving professionals and people in the creative arts) quality of life issues (including mid-life crisis, life goals and spiritual values) the creative process mindfulness personal / professional development

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