Ask the right question
Why asking better questions is the perfect antidote when you're feeling flat, fat and uninspired.
I met up with two of my friends last night and we were all tired - and dare I say it, a bit whingey. 'I'm stuck in my job, I've got this huge mortgage. What's the point?' one said. The other friend was struggling in her marriage. 'I don't know how to re-light the spark. What if it's gone for good?' She actually cried into her soup. I was moaning about feeling bloated and listless. Yes, we were a real barrel of laughs.
Normally, we get together and we're quite the power-house. We feed off each other's energy and ideas. My two friends are very dynamic women and I can be too if I put my mind to it. But last night? We had a communal flat battery and had lost the metaphorical car keys. We all felt trapped, stuck in old patterns, asking the same old questions and getting the same listless answers.
As I made my way home, I pulled out some proofs of a new book from Bloombury - A More Beautiful Question: The Power of Inquiry To Spark Breakthrough Ideas by Warren Berger. Just the title made me realise how my friends and I had been asking questions that would take us in a negative spiral - why me? why did this have to happen? what's the use?
Want to become unstuck, asks Berger? Ask more beautiful questions.
As my train trundled home, I felt the gloom lift as I read and started to answer some slightly more empowering questions than I'd been asking all evening.
- What is important to me?
- What has worked for me before - and how can I bring more of that into my life now?
- What did I love doing as a child?
- What makes me feel most alive?
- What if I make one small change?
- Why do it the same, old way?
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